Attachment theory tells us we need two things in life to be modeled and grow.
A secure base and a safe haven.
If you grew up LDS you imprinted on the church and its leaders because well… follow the prophet is the mantra instead of “honor thy father and mother”. (Exodus 20:12 KJV. Exodus 12:8 RE)
If you have a secure base with your parents, you know that all the world is at your fingertips and that you are capable and have the ability to achieve at a very high level.
If you have safe haven you have a place to return to when the world isn’t safe, when everything around you is breaking down.
In the LDS cultural setting parents have voluntarily abdicated their role to the institution and voluntarily act as agents for the institution instead of as agents unto themselves.
The institution has become the primary over the parent and voids the commandment it pretends to follow, or better put wrests it. Because the commandment is follow the prophet. Parents must get in line or they will be excommunicated the from their own personal safe haven that gives them a sense of belonging.
People find themselves doing things may not have otherwise done when these two things are put at peril. This is why safe and trusted sources the LDS such as the series “The Saints”; that are so full historical fiction and delusion, are paraded as truth and beloved as such. It is massive cognitive dissonance that fractures the soul.
This is another reason the church bends its ear to the world, as people cherish institutions as primary over parents, the things that comprise civil society that bend and morph over time and move away from truth become a competitive master to the LDS institution. In order to retain people they must also go in the direction of the world albeit at a slower pace so it looks as if they arent bending. But take a wide view and you see they keep up.
By engineering compulsion into the fabric of the church it has done its adherents a massive disservice that does not serve God. Amen to the priesthood of that man who would use compulsion by virtue of office to engineer an outcome.
Those leaders who advocate this give up their responsibility (that they have taken upon themselves to proclaim) to set the world aright and restore or preserve truth. In the process, they lose truth and continue the downward spiral of aligning more with the way of the world. Generationally the “truth” as they claim doesn’t resemble what truth really is. It becomes relative to the demands the institution has to compete with the world.
As adults coming out of these traditions it is incumbent on us to finish the deconstruction and reconstruction as an independent unit or couple aligned to God. We, as parents also have a duty to guide our offspring on a path of light and truth connecting them with God. Not being replaced by institutions.
Moses 4: 3: “Wherefore, because that Satan rebelled against me, and sought to destroy the agency of man, which I, the Lord God, had given him, and also, that I should give unto him mine own power; by the power of mine Only Begotten, I caused that he should be cast down.”
The battle over our souls is a battle over that which is most precious through eternity and it is precisely our agency.
By sacrificing agency we attempt to scapegoat the real culprit and accountability of our decisions on to someone or something else. Ultimately we are still culpable.
When we give someone or something else claim on us by surrendering agency to them, the adversary has the power to drag us down to hell. Those who would ask for our agency and to follow them are serving that fallen angel and doing his will and thus become servants and agents unto him. When this happens those who have surrendered their will to a man give him authority and permission to subvert Gods plan of agency and lead us away from God through unbelief (believing in wrong principles). Then the sins of idolatry and priestcraft come into the discussion because these men typically ask to be paid for their preaching and set themselves up as a light and divine for money. (2 Nephi 26:20, 29. 2 Nephi 11:15,17 CE)
This is what Nephi calls it the flaxen cord and it leads them to destruction thinking that salvation comes in and of a man or institution. (2 Nephi 26:22-24. 2 Nephi 11:15-16 CE) what these men preach soothes the itching ear and men who have itching ears heap to themselves these teachers (2 Tim 4:3 KJV. 2 Tim 1:10 RE) and their comfortable edicts with their flowery language instead of seeking true messengers and verifying what they say through the spirit and scriptures. They co-opt the lords message for their own benefit.
“Behold, here is the agency of man, and here is the condemnation of man; because that which was from the beginning is plainly manifest unto them, and they receive not the light.” (D&C 93:31. T&C 93:10) You see… it is to act for itself and to go straight to God.
There are consequences of surrendering our agency to another man. “All truth is independent in that sphere in which God has placed it, to act for itself, as all intelligence also; otherwise there is no existence. Behold, here is the agency of man, and here is the condemnation of man; because that which was from the beginning is plainly manifest unto them, and they receive not the light.” (D&C 93:30. T&C 93:10)
If intelligences having truth do not act independently and make decisions and choose for themselves they have no real meaning and no real existence. By our choices, accepting or rejecting light we exalt ourselves or condemn ourselves. There are consequences of surrendering our agency to another man.
Men use the idea of the necessity of acting in the place of God and thereby compel us to surrender agency to them, to man, instead of absolving our will to God by personal revelation. “I contend that if one man cannot understand these things but by the spirit of God, ten thousand men cannot. It is alike out of the reach of the wisdom of the learned, the tongue of the eloquent, the power of the mighty. And we shall at last have to come to this conclusion, whatever we may think of revelation, that without it we can neither know nor understand anything of God, or the Devil; and however unwilling the world may be to acknowledge this principle, it is evident from the multifarious creeds and notions concerning this matter that they understand nothing of this principle, and it is equally as plain that without a divine communication they must remain in ignorance.“ (Joseph Smith “Try the Spirits”, April 1 1842)
The concept most religions teach about agency is such that you can choose your decisions but not your consequences. This deflects from the truth of what our agency really is.
It is independence as it operates in its own sphere. We are independent as a soul who has agency. While it is true, every action has an outcome and they are either good or bad, agency in scripture, refers to our exercising mental faculties to recognize truth , make decisions and learn from those decisions. The consequence of surrendering your agency to men or institution is spiritual death and destruction.
So much of our identity is tied to groups and institutions having foregone the blessings of worldly uncertainty and heavenly union that we haven’t been able to taste the fruits of independence and freedom in the alignment with God who would break the bands of death and hell (which life commonly looks like) and free us of the worldly cares and set us on the upward path.
So many of us have started the deconstruction but so few of us have begun the reconstruction process that will give us at-one-ment. It’s my hope all of us can lead and allow the lord to reconstruct us and become one with HIM instead of attaching to other things.